Friday, July 24, 2009

Summer In San Francisco


"The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco." Mark Twain.

Some argue that Mark Twain never said this. Whether he did or didn’t, thousands have said, are saying and will say that the coldest days they’ve known are those summer days in San Francisco.
Me, I am screaming it. This is a photo of me in our backyard last August. I dressed like this all summer!
I spent 5 winters in Minnesota and 4 winters in New York, and nothing could ever prepare me for the cold I faced when I moved to San Francisco. Absurd right? I moved here sight unseen and in the assumption that I was heading to sunny, warm California. I even considered getting rid of my winter gear before I moved here. HA! I seriously felt I could not handle another cold NY winter. Well the joke was on me! My time here in San Francisco has been nothing but one long cold winter! My first two months were brutal. I initially stayed with my buddy and his wife in one of the foggier parts of town. A neighborhood called Sunset. Go figure. They didn’t have a heating system and I chattered myself to sleep every night. I cried every day to my east coast family and friends and received the best gift in the world at Christmas that year. An electric blanket! Not long after that, I also purchased an electric space heater. And let me tell you, even with my thick blankets and down comforter, I have my little heater on every night! Honestly, there are only about 5 nights out of the year that I don’t use it.
There is a serious misconception about temperature here. When you watch the weather forecast and look at the temps across the country, San Fran always rings in at 70 and sunny. What the map fails to reflect is the thick layer of fog that separates our bodies from that 70 and sun. The fog doesn’t stand alone though. She is fierce friends with the wind, who blows in at 20-30 mph, howling at my window as if I were in Antarctica!

Microclimates reign supreme around here. 5 minutes in any direction can give you an entirely different experience.

I work in Berkeley, 20 minutes from San Francisco. I leave for work each day wrapped up in my coat and scarf. I get off the train in Berkeley and I’m in a completely different world. One of sunshine, blue skies and tank tops! It’s seriously 10-15 degrees warmer there.

When and if it actually is warm and sunny in San Francisco, please do not kid yourself into thinking that it will remain that way for the day, the hour or even a minute!
I’ll never forget the Bay to Breakers Marathon I went to last year. It was freezing when I left home so I bundled up in a heavy coat, hat, scarf and gloves. By 10am I was so hot that I peeled down to a tank top. Sunshine is a foreign element to my skin now, so I was nice and pink in no time. Within a few hours, dense fog and cold winds took over the city. Again. For the next three days I walked around in my long wool coat with a sunburn. Talk about confusing signals for my body!

At any time of the year San Francisco is full of tourist walking around scantly dressed, absolutely freezing their asses off. Boy, do I laugh! Cursing and crying wasn't exactly turning me into a warmer person. =)

As I am writing this at a coffee shop, a fireman struck up a conversation with me while waiting on his coffee. “How about this summer day we got going on?!” He says and laughs. (It’s been foggy, windy and cold every single day this week) Talk about a Universal Echo. He was completely drawn to me and the energy of my story. Turns out he also moved here from NYC and like me, hated his first two years here. Especially the weather. He wrestled with going back to the east coast for some time. He finally bumped into the right people and met his community. I swear the Universe sent him in to say, “Hang in there Amanda… Things are about to turn around for you. Sunshine is on the way!”

Friday, July 17, 2009

A Gem in the Rough




I love this stone! This odd beauty is called Aragonite . I would almost swear it is from outer space! Thinking back to how I came across it, I can see there were definitely other forces involved in our meeting….
My roommates and I were on our way back from Harbin Hot Springs. None of us really had that great of a time on our trip and I was in one of those special pissy moods throughout the entire weekend. We drove by the Petrified Forest store on the way up and decided we’d stop in on our way back so I could check out their stones. As we made our way back, I so wasn’t feeling it. I just wanted to get the hell home! Erica was pretty persistent about me checking out the store, so with a huge sigh I gave in. I walked into an amazing collection of crystals and fossils, and was instantly grateful for Erica’s persuasion. In no time at all I had my hands full of new rocks to take home and play with. I looked around the store and thought, what a great place to sell my necklaces!
A week later, I noticed there was a random charge of $23, dated two days after my visit. I called and spoke with the manager and over the next week she searched high and low, and could find no trace of the charge. She was baffled. I was blessed. While we were on the phone, I mentioned to her that I make jewelry and had created some amazing pieces out of what I bought there. She checked out my website and quickly responded that she loved my work and would definitely consider doing business with me. She invited me to come back with my collection so that we could formally meet. Not having a car, it took me another two months before I was able to make my way back. She was an amazing source of help and information, giving me a wealth of tips on which shows to go to, and who to speak with to find the best deals on rocks and minerals. On top of that she was more than happy to sell my necklaces at her store. YAY!
For my $23 credit, I chose to pick out more stones rather than receive a refund. That’s when I came across this spectacular collection of Aragonite. This is one of four pieces that I selected. They are going to make incredible necklaces.
Thanks to the mystery charge, I was able to establish a wonderful connection with the Petrified Forest Community in Calistoga, California. An amazing gem to find in the rough of that weekend!

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Knowing when to ask for help


For some of us, asking for help can be one of the most difficult parts of life. Especially when we need money or food.
I have always been pretty independent and able to take care of myself. When I moved to San Francisco that all changed. Initially, I had a difficult time finding full time work and had to ask my family for rent money. I was pretty unhappy about it, but so very grateful they were able and willing to help. I got myself on track with a job and was feeling pretty good about being able to pay my bills, despite the fact that I wasn't too thrilled about my work. I had a feeling something was about to happen to my leg and after 7 years of not having insurance I was once again eligible. Two weeks later I broke my foot. I was in such denial that It was broken that I hobbled around in extreme pain for two weeks before I finally went for x-rays. Talk about stubborn! In my defense though, there was never a particular moment of impact that said broken bone to me. Yes, I kicked my martial arts coach a hundred times on his superhero body of steel and I do recall a little bit of pain towards the end of our session. But a broken bone?! Come on! I tried acupuncture, Reiki, a general practitioner who thought I had gout (LOL!) and then finally a chiropractor. I'll never forget what my boss said to me. "You know Amanda, they can do some really amazing things with Western Medicine these days!" By that point, I was a miserable mess and just wanted to teleport right to a bone specialist and beg him to help me. And that's exactly what I did. I was diagnosed with a stress fracture and told I would be in a cast for two months. Again, I was not a happy camper, but being in a cast did ease the pain of my foot. I started freaking out about how I was going to get around and what was going to happen to me. I felt completely defenseless and was really afraid someone would take advantage of my situation and attack me. Instead, I received the exact opposite. Loving help and support from my friends. I felt guilty about putting them out and worried about being such a burden. To that they said, Amanda, get over it! We love you and want to help care for you! I was amazed.
It is so easy to think that we just have to suffer alone and that's just the way things are. We always have a choice in how we view uncomfortable situations. I want to thank my friends and family for helping me see it so differently.
A year has passed and I am ready to start kicking my coach and buddy Matt again! Stay tuned for some video on that...